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The Toxic Trap

A devoted father snaps, killing his young children. Mathew Coleman had a picture-perfect family. One evening Mathew Taylor Coleman, rounded up a group of his surfing buddies and their families, along with his own, for an impromptu picnic at Santa Barbara Arroyo Burro Beach.

As the sunset over the Pacific, the 40-year-old surf instructor held his infant daughter Roxy close to his chest while his 2-year old son Kaleo played in the sand near the water's edge. Coleman rounded up a group of his surfing buddies.

Just two months later that impulsiveness took a dark turn. On August 7th, as his wife, Abby, was packing for a family camping trip, he wordlessly loaded Kaleo and Roxy into the couple’s car and drove off. At first, his wife was not concerned, telling police her husband may have run an errand.

She was wrong. After spending two nights with them in a hotel, he allegedly drove them to a farm outside the town, shot them both in the chest with a spearfishing gun, and left their bodies in a ditch next to the murder weapon and a blood-soaked baby blanket before heading back to his hotel.

He was a loving father, a devoted churchgoing man with a booming laugh and a tender heart for those in need. Everyone thought he was a builder and not a destroyer.

This is incomprehensible to everyone who loved Matt.

How could this have happened?

Suddenly, your spouse is not the person you once knew. They have changed and become someone much darker–one of Hyde’s from Alice in Wonderland.

The transformation into a terrible monster occurs when one or both spouses turn into Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.

This story may not be you but is it really? You may not have been in a relationship that tried to kill you but can it be they have murdered you in your heart?

Can this be you?

I cannot believe you turned out this way. Were we really so different back then? What did I do wrong that caused us to drift apart like two strangers living on opposite sides of town–or even countries for all the matter how far they are from each other geographically speaking (not sure if anyone has actually done it before)?

There must be some mistake with your name change or maybe just one too many martinis during our youth days - because now instead of drinking alone at home every night, there’s always laughter coming through these walls when someone calls themselves “Jekyll & Hyde” either inside themself or between their sheets…

The toxic relationship is an elaborate trap designed to hook unsuspecting victims. It starts out with promises of love and happiness, but in reality, you’ll spend your whole life fighting for this person who doesn’t really care about anything other than themselves.

“Getting married expecting love (to find yourself) inside a completely irrational human being.” “I’m sorry,” I said aloud as tears rolled down my cheek. We need not be doomed forever; we can escape from these soul-sucking chains that will never allow them to feel better unless they’re constantly reminded how unhappy everyone else seems!

When it comes to relationships, there is no escaping the allure of toxic ones. You have learned how they work and what your brain expects so you are more susceptible than someone who hasn’t had these experiences yet–but this doesn’t mean that we can never get out!

If you find yourself in a toxic relationship, here are some ways to recognize it and get out.

1) The person who creates problems for your whole world is usually the one with lower self-esteem; they want attention on their lack of confidence instead of actually working hard at something worthwhile like studying or achieving goals (which may make them feel less worthy).

2.) When someone wants more than what he/she has accomplished by blaming others or pointing fingers, then that’s called “scapegoating”.

The more you understand human nature, the easier it is to avoid toxic relationships.

That’s because they are alluring and familiar - just like things in your past that were not good for you.

I met my husband when I was 18. He appeared to be perfect, but he had a dark side. It didn’t take long for me to see it, either. The first time he got angry with me in the car, I was horrified at how quickly his mood can change! But it didn’t stop there; after 17 years of living with him my fear dissipated and anger became my primary emotion.

I was young when I married him, my mother warned me about his ways; I told myself “he’ll change.”

I knew it wouldn’t be easy for us with three small kids and a mortgage but we made it work even if we weren’t happy together. We had our problems: he never wanted to spend money on anything for the kids or take them anywhere; they didn’t have any interests in sports or activities; we had one car. I felt helpless. I was not in a good place. I lost myself in his anger and it absorbed my life.

Abusive relationships are difficult to leave. You may have been in one for a long time and now you’re ready to cut ties, but the abuse is still there.

In order to do this, you need help from those close to you. Ask them how they can help and do everything in your power to let go and surround yourself with healthy relationships when all of this is over.