The Mechanisms Of Love…The Instinct of Familiarity
The mechanism of love is similar to the mechanism of attraction. The people we call "bea" are attracted to someone on an emotional level, but they do not know why or how.
They feel like they need that person in their life and want them around all the time. When this happens, it is called infatuation (or limerence).
Infatuation can happen at any time with anyone; however, it usually does not last for more than a few months or years before fading away into something else altogether - like friendship.
Love is different from infatuation because it lasts much longer - sometimes even until death separates two people who loved each other deeply.
It's important to understand these concepts so you don't mistake one for another.
The way we approach love as adults is highly shaped by how we experienced love as children.
In adulthood, we will be attracted to people who remind us more or less unconsciously of the people we loved as children.
A lot of people are in relationships and out of curiosity they may be wondering how their relationship compares to others.
A new study has found that the way we approach love as adults is highly shaped by how we experienced love as children.
The study also found some interesting patterns on what shapes our romantic lives, like whether or not you were raised with a single parent versus both parents, your level of education, and if you grew up in an affluent family.
These things can shape everything from our expectations for future relationships to what kind of partner we're looking for.
I once read an article about how to tell if you are in a toxic relationship. It basically said that if you feel like your significant other is more of a stranger than someone you've known for years, then it's time to reevaluate your relationship.
Perhaps the affection of our partner can end up with a feeling of familiarity like in your home.
It was written at a certain time when I felt alone and misunderstood by my significant other, but now that I am older and wiser, I realized that this wasn't the case with every couple out there!
We aren't perfect, but we love each other unconditionally even when it feels too hard sometimes.
But what about those times where they don't seem as affectionate? Where does this leave us?
Because we are attracted to people who manifest in our parents, caregivers from childhood it is tinged with a feeling of familiarity.
We end up in their arms, in an emotional sense, we come home.