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Should I Stay or Should I Go?

"What is the first thing that comes to mind when you hear the word 'relationship'? Love? Happiness? Excitement?"

This may be true for some, but not all. For others, it might bring up thoughts of fear and anxiety. Relationships can often cause people to experience these negative emotions because they are so complicated and difficult sometimes.

They involve vulnerability and trust, which can make someone feel very exposed or vulnerable in a way they don't want to feel.

We all know what it's like to have bad days — we're moody or just downright grumpy — but we still manage to get through them without any problems with our loved ones because we understand that everyone has their off days once in a while.

Let’s go a bit further into understanding your situation.

A toxic relationship is one of the hardest things to walk away from. You stay because you love them, but what if they're holding you back? What if this person is pulling you down or just dragging your feet.

Ever had someone in your life who dragged you down or made you doubt yourself? I know I have. It's so hard to believe that we can't help people and change them, but sometimes they don't want to be changed and they just need a break from us.

If you are struggling with this dilemma: should I stay or should I go?

If the toxic person has caused irreversible damage (physical violence, sexual assault), then it may not be worth staying with them. If the relationship is causing consistent mental or emotional abuse, then it may also not be worth sticking around.

But if the toxicity isn't as severe as what's been described above, there might still be hope for both parties.

"Any toxic relationship implies there is something potentially damaging for the person (or both people) in that relationship." These relationships can leave you doubting your own reality, your own values, and your sense of self-worth.

If a person genuinely loves you, they will be there for you no matter what. They will support your dreams and ambitions, help you through hard times, and love you unconditionally.

When it comes to relationships, sometimes people get too caught up in the idea of being in love so much that they forget about everything else.

But if a person truly cares about another individual then they should never stop loving them or standing by their side through thick and thin because at the end of the day that is what a healthy relationship is all about.

Toxic relationships are also relationships where you don't feel accepted for who you are; you may feel like an outsider, shunned, or judged constantly.

And most importantly you lose your sense of self in this relationship.

Or your loss of self may be related to your partner's jealousy or manipulation. In other words, you feel pressured to give up parts of yourself and fear that your partner will leave or reject you if you aren't the perfect partner.

How to Know When It's Time to Let Go of Someone You Love

  1. Your needs aren't being met. ...
  2. You're seeking those needs from others. ...
  3. You're scared to ask for more from your partner. ...
  4. You feel obligated to stay with your partner.