People Who Advocate For Themselves
People who fail to advocate for themselves are often left feeling frustrated, angry, and resentful.
We all know that people who don't express their needs tend to be more stressed out than those who do. But it's hard to learn how to stand up for yourself without coming off as too demanding or self-centered. This is especially true if you've been taught that being nice means never saying no or always putting the needs of others first.
Are You Too Low Maintenance? We are going to begin to identify what they want in life and then communicate it effectively without sacrificing relationships or dignity.
Do you have behaviors like excessive apologizing, taking responsibility for other people's feelings, and overanalyzing situations that cause stress in one's life?
Consider the woman who does not request the affection she needs in a romantic relationship for fear that her partner will say she’s too demanding.
Or what about the man who, when upset with a friend or family member, fails to speak his mind out of fear of being deemed dramatic?
When you strive to be this agreeable, or an excellent giver, listener, and peacemaker.
Usually fear of rejection or abandonment is common if they share their fair share of emotions.
This low form of low-maintenance behavior is a rejection and repression of self rather than the reflection of a person’s true character.
A person who internalized the need to be low maintenance in relationships may struggle to identify the emotions she/he diligently represses, ignores, or criticizes.
If anger or sadness emerge, the low-maintenance person may only know to swallow or reject the emotion instead of noticing it and addressing the needs that the emotion reveals.
The less the person can tolerate her own emotional experience, however, the more she/he will struggle to identify, articulate, and assert those needs in important relationships.